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WTF OTD: Restaurant Uses Drink Name to Make Light of Domestic Violence

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This piece is part of a daily “What the Fuck of the Day” series here on Antigone Awakens, where I briefly discuss one thing each day that has me seriously saying, WTF?!?!

I saw a picture in my Facebook feed today, and it was egregious enough that I felt it deserved a space in my WTF OTD.

It seems that the 44 1/2 Restaurant in NYC’s Hell’s Kitchen prides itself on coming up with celebrity inspired drink names:

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Photo courtesy @alisonturkos

If you look about 5 drinks up, you’ll notice the drink that had my blood pressure skyrocketing. It’s called the “Bloody Rihanna.”

I can’t imagine it would EVER be okay to make light of someone’s personal troubles through a drink name (which means I’m not okay with the Britney Breakdown, either – also, Lady Gaga’s Guava Stick? Umm…), but when 1 in 4 US women will be the victim of intimate partner violence in her lifetime, and when 1.3 MILLION US women are abused each year, to name a drink after a survivor of domestic violence as a joke?

FUCK YOU, 44 1/2. FUCK.YOU.

Making light of domestic violence and domestic violence survivors is not cute, it’s not funny, and it is NEVER okay.

h/t to @alisonturkos for this story

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What Not To Say to Someone You Think Is a Survivor of Domestic Violence

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Photo credit: SashaW / Foter.com / CC BY

Dear friends, family, acquaintances, and random strangers:

As survivors of domestic violence, we’ve been through a lot of hurt. Sadly, sometimes those hurtful things have come to us, albeit unwittingly, by your own hands. We know you mean well, and we know you want to see us safe, but you only see a glimpse of what we might be going through.

If you REALLY want to help us, please take the following to heart: Continue reading

WTF OTD: 66% of Rhode Island Domestic Violence Cases Are Dismissed

Photo credit: European Parliament / Foter.com / CC BY-NC-ND

Photo credit: European Parliament / Foter.com / CC BY-NC-ND

This piece is part of a daily “What the Fuck of the Day” series here on Antigone Awakens, where I briefly discuss one thing each day that has me seriously saying, WTF?!?!

This story popped up in my Feedly google alerts feed (side note: if y’all aren’t using Feedly, start using it, like yesterday) today, and my eyes almost fell out of my head. Continue reading